Transitioning into Assisted Living

Many lifestyle changes come with age. There comes a time when an elder person may need to change their living situation because they need help with their day-to-day activities. Some may opt for admission into retirement homes or assisted living housing. While the change can be stressful, there are numerous benefits to assisted living. 

Assisted living offers personalized care in a designated housing facility. Generally, a person will have individual living quarters, retaining privacy whenever they desire it. There are often common spaces which encourage socialization between the retirees too. This creates a supportive environment, aiding the physical and mental well-being of the older adults. Staff members and professionals are present on-site, offering emergency support and care at all times. 

There are some immediate benefits that come with admitting one’s parent into an assisted-living facility. For families, this may simplify the daily tasks of caring for their parents: no more juggling of responsibilities and scrambling for time to meet the parent’s needs. Qualified professionals will take over and address any concerns in an adequate manner. In this way, the parent will receive the care that they deserve and desire. 

 

However, there are certain factors that can make the transition into assisted living difficult.

Cost is a factor that can discourage many from admitting their loved ones into assisted-living homes. On average, assisted-living homes range from $4,500 to $6,500 per month in the US. Most of the time, insurance plans don’t cover these costs, forcing families to refrain from admitting their loved ones. However, some assisted-living homes participate in the Medicaid program, offering options for those who may not be able to afford the housing fees on their own. In fact, there are various other alternatives that help with affording assisted-living and end-of-life care.

The transition may be emotionally difficult, met with resistance from the parent as well as the family members. 

For parents, assisted living may be a constant reminder of their declining health and growing age. Surrounded by many elders, witnessing other people as well as yourself age can tarnish your morale and mindset. While it is easier said than done, adopting a positive mindset towards age is crucial. Children can help their parents accept aging through productive discourse. By acknowledging your fears, appreciating the present, and focusing on the things that you are grateful for, you will make the most out of your life even at an older age. Lastly, it is important to accept and welcome the help that one deserves. 

For family members, similar concerns and fears may arise. Some children may feel guilty for placing their parents into assisted living homes. The transitions may also become a point of conflict between the children and their parents. To cope with this, it is important to have an open discussion about each other’s feelings and expectations. Each party should disclose their boundaries and be open to compromise. 

 

There are also concrete ways of making the transition smoother. For example, the parent could do trial days at different homes, getting an idea of what it is like to live in one. Without making any final plans, this can make the transitioning experience more flexible and comforting.

Every family will have a different experience but having open and respectful discourse between one another is key to figuring out the appropriate transition into assisted living.

— Eugenia Shakhnovskaya