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“Within Minutes of my Husband’s Death — I was Attacked with Questions”
Have you been wondering how you will be able to move on after the death of a loved one? This is the wrong question, according to Kelley Lynn, a comedian who shared her experience with her husband’s death in a Ted Talk. Instead of moving on, she believes that we can learn to integrate the memory of a loved one into our daily life.
You may have shared Kelley’s experience of being bombarded with well-intentioned, but insensitive comments. Only minutes after her husband’s sudden death people said things like “You need to move on, ”It was God's plan,” and “Would you like cremation or a casket?” She felt the pressure to know the answer to every question when she was in shock. This pressure to forget and move on is common.
Yet, this expectation to handle grief — as something that people should put behind them and that will eventually disappear — is not how grief actually works. Or as she puts it: “When someone you loves dies and you are told to move on over and over again. Something in you breaks.” She suggests that instead of asking a bereaved person to forget and move on, a better question is: “How can I help you honor their legacy?”
Now, she finds her purpose and meaning in life through working to make sure her husband’s legacy lives on. She does this by telling his story and talking openly about her grief.
